Oasis for the Soul

TRUTH - THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN EVERYTHING...

Tue, 21 May 2013 06:22:56 EDT

In nineteen eighty-seven the stock market crashed after a consistent rise in real estate prices and many things. I was a mortgage banker at the time, while deciding on a career. I had just completed my degree in Psychology and knew that eventually I would be in a profession helping people, and also had goals to support my family.

My success depended on Real Estate agents referring me clients to assist in securing a mortgage. After the crash, Realtors were in shock and many were feeling hopeless. After six months of struggling to get business, I decided that since people always move, no matter the market, I had to go to the source of the business and become an agent.

Family and friends told me that I was too nice to be a successful agent. Real Estate agents were right up there with used car sales people in respect and expectations for lying. I told them that I was going to change that paradigm.

SUCCESS WHEN MANY ARE SUFFERING

Two years later, after many agents left the business, and others were struggling and discouraged, the local Board of Realtors asked me to teach a class in how I was so successful in this market. I have always been happy to share and support others in all ways, so I agreed to speak and share my secrets of success.

There was a full house of Realtors who were both seasoned, and newer agents, in the room. They were expecting charts and handouts and instead I gave them wisdom and simple, logical and insightful marketing tips, and new ways to look at people and how to get their listings sold.

The first thing I told them was that they had to tell the truth. A pin could drop in that room. Truth was not what brokers told them to use as a way to close transactions. Since truth was how I had always lived my life, it was a natural for me to use in any business, and life circumstance.

Manipulation, lying and control was not something I appreciated or fell for. I was a good sales person and focused on helping people first, using acute awareness and creative marketing by looking at the way people bought and needed to see things, I looked at who might want to buy a home and focused on finding out how to reach them.

I also helped people make good decisions in buying homes and helped them stay real in price, location and lifestyle so that they did not overspend or buy too far away from work and schools and other considerations that they would regret later.

Agents would think I was nuts because I was not quick to close a sale. I wanted a sale that would close and people would be happy afterwards and all along the way.

When you are steeped in manipulation and lies, you waste a lot of time and effort and dance in circles and fear. When you take the time to tune into what is needed to compete a task or a job, a perfect pathway opens up and all are satisfied.

I educated buyers and sellers, like I educate people today in healing and personal success. I was a partner in helping them reach their goals. Homes often do not sell because of lies and missing pieces, much like health and life requires full awareness.

By paying attention to truth first, I could see what worked and what did not. My goal was a sale for the best price for my clients, even if they were losing twenty-five percent of their investment.

TRUTH OFFERS ANSWERS TO DIFFICULT PROBLEMS

Many realtors focused on how hard it would be to sell a home, I focused on how we could get it done. I had multiple offers on homes in neighborhoods where no other homes in the neighborhood were shown. Realtors and buyers did not believe me until I had all parties sit down at the same table.

Telling truth helped me discover the best price that would really sell, and that the closer we were listed to that price, the more showings and offers and we had. By telling the truth, and helping people make the best of a challenging market, not only did we sell, when many did not, but we attained the highest price.

The common practice was to inflate the price to get the listing and have to fight sellers to reduce it. To me that began a relationship with dishonesty, was a huge waste of time and effort, and often ended up with wasting six months, disappointed and losing money for all.

Instead I chose listings well, and only took listings where the buyers were ready to listen to truth, and ready to sell, and I did very well. I had been in the Title Insurance business in my first career from title searcher to partner of owner. I saw the cycles of the business and knew the responsibility in all areas.

Not only did I build my business well with clients, I had the respect and trust of other Realtors who loved doing business with me because they knew I would do my best to close the sale with them and help our clients.

There are so many subtleties in life, and if we are in illusion, avoidance and manipulation, we miss all the fun, and allowing things to work. Rather than lie, it is best to seek deeper truth of what is happening and why.

DEEPER TRUTH

Twice I had listings of people who had to sell. Their homes were shown daily. The price was right, the homes were perfect, and yet, no offers. Looking for truth, I realized that one of the owners in both homes did not want to sell, even though they had to.

By sitting down with each couple, and working through their fears and difficulty about moving on, we opened up the energy of the homes to take offers immediately. Other Realtors might have wanted to reduce the price as the only option, when that was not the problem.

Looking for deeper truth allows greater information, of both cause and solutions to come forth. You have to be open and ready for success, and do everything to support the process.

Healing, relationships, and all areas of life, work well on living the truth of what is. We have been caught in cycles to avoid, lie and not look for solutions but to take drugs, make up stories that do not make sense, and allow problems to manifest and continue.

Life is easy when you can break the cycles of illusion and find truth. You save time, money, and energy, and create an amazing successful life in all ways.

I love to help people heal from things they had no idea they could, solve relationship problems and succeed in business and life.

PS. The realtors did not follow my advice. They used my printer and delivery person to market their listings and did not listen to the important keys to marketing and working with people and each other. Both the printer and delivery person are still in business and doing well as a result, many Realtors are long gone.

Paying attention to the deeper truths and living them works in all areas.

Look to your life, and see where you can pay attention to truth, and live the life and health you desire.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Life and health coaching and healing in all areas – from relationships to health to career and more. Janet StraightArrow finds hidden truths that straighten out the challenges in your life.

Call Janet today to have her on your team and help you achieve success in all areas of your life.

973-647-2500 Janet@Bethemedicine.com www.bethemedicine.com

PS. If you are or know a Realtor who would like to increase their success, give them this story. Janet has helped Realtors increase their business in surprising ways. They make more money in less time and have happier customers.

In 1999 StraightArrow bridged over to full time teaching, coaching, healing and writing, leaving her successful Real Estate career to help more people, and continue to research and create ways to make life and health easier with truth and joy.

BRIDGING PARADIGMS- LIVING BRILLIANCE � BACK TO THE FUTURE...

Sat, 11 May 2013 06:54:45 EDT

2012 marked a movement like the 100^th monkey, we have moved into awareness on a grander scale.

For hundreds of years we have been moving backwards, thinking we were moving forwards.

We live in a magical universe and world and have been living locked up in illusions of limitations and lies.

It is time to participate in the real world of love, truth, health, happiness, beauty and light.

In this world everything makes sense and we are free to be us in all of our brilliance.

There are no self-esteem issues since we are all amazing, beautiful people living our best selves and purpose.

Everyone supports everyone else because there is no fear of lack; everyone has all they need and more.

We each are telepathic and access the living library inside of us as the inner net instead of the need for an Internet. We learn and remember easily and travel at the speed of light, no airplanes needed.

We each know how to access our original blueprint of perfect health and maintain it each day automatically.

We die because it is time to leave this dimension of experience and ascend to the next one. We may also come back to visit to be of service.

Everyone is honored for his or her role in society, and in our life. Ancestors are wise ones, and women are revered and respected, as are men.

Various cultures and beliefs do not threaten ours, as we are all one reflecting various angles and perspectives of truth to one another.

Each person is their own medicine and emanates their gifts of love and healing as they live it themselves.

There is no need to complain, as we create our own reality, and we can change it in a nanosecond, and do.

Life is a gift of sharing your brilliance and receiving from others.

If you have any “buts” to these, it is a place to begin to heal and awaken in you.

We are all whole loving beautiful, brilliant beings. Live it now. No waiting.

The Power of Love. The Power of Truth. The Power of You. Be The Medicine.

Enjoy the journey,

Janet StraightArrow

www.bethemedicine.com 973-647-2500 Janet@bethemedicine.com

Call Janet for deeper awakening and as a guide and bridge to walk your path brilliantly.

THE ONLY WAY TO BE SAFE...

Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:19:42 EDT

The year after 911, I traveled by air more than in any other year before. People would ask me, aren’t you afraid when you fly? My answer was no, I pay attention to my body and self to feel my safety everyday.

If I do not feel safe, I listen and adjust accordingly. I choose to not live in fear after decades of clearing imprints of fear from my body, mind, emotions and life. Fear is not our friend to be given power to.

My body-mind tells me in subtle ways to change course often. We all have this inner guide within that speaks clearly and assists us when we learn to listen.

Safety is in attending to the subtle wisdom of the self, and not to the loud voice of hypnotic messages of fear that disconnect us from truth.

It is an important skill to develop, to feel, listen and learn from our knowing that is always active in each one of us.

It is important to clear and stop feeding imprints of fear, anger, ego, righteousness and traumas that have occurred earlier in our life. These are also subtle because we are used to listening to them, and keep us off track

To learn to focus on love, purity and peace allows all messages to find its correct place and meaning. If you focus on worry and fear you find more of that dominates.

This is a worthwhile journey and what Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You is all about, to live authentically with wisdom, knowledge and grace in all areas of your life.

Mental, emotional and spiritual intelligence grow as we live in our power and truth. All aspects of our life, health, relationships and work become better, and more enjoyable and productive.

Trust you, and that there is always safety in knowing. Each person has access to his or her innate ability to navigate safely in the world. It is a process and a practice to fully activate this ability. Practice, listen and learn and the more you follow that still small voice of truth and safety, the more you will trust it and learn to live free.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be the Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Please call for assistance in this process of awakening your abilities, trusting and living them. As we deepen our inner connection we clear what we have carried for days, years and lifetimes of what is not truth so that we can easily discern and be free to be.

Coaching, healing and teaching occur in classes and sessions. Adults, children and people from all walks of life enjoy how working with Janet brings them into themselves immediately and with fun. Call today to see how you might work with Janet. Phone and Skype around the world and in person in NJ and traveling.

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UNCOMFORTABLE? CONFUSED? NAVIGATING CHANGE IN THESE TIMES....

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 01:11:04 EDT

What is changing is our awareness. We no longer see things or perceive life, others and us in the same way.

We feel different and may not recognize how we feel, and become uncomfortable and not understand what is occurring.

Everyone is experiencing awakening in many forms. Life is not what it once was.

The only thing we can count on is change.

We do not see people, including us, in the same way.

New things, interests and focus are becoming important as the old fall away easily.

Change is normal and good, even though it may be uncomfortable.

It’s okay to let go of who and what does not work for you anymore to make room for things and people that do.

We are not bad or wrong for moving on, and it is important to listen to us when we are ready to make changes.

There is always a shift point in making big changes. This can last a short or longer period. What is important is to be with it, and not force change, until it becomes clear.

This in between place allows us the space to adjust, and feel how we feel, so that we can make good choices in our evolving choices moving forward.

Learning to trust and know who we are, and what is best for us, is a journey in itself.

The rulebook is an inner one that has more power than the outer one we used to follow.

Knowing that it is not only okay, but also important to move forward is paramount.

As humans we have an inner guide, that is our natural knowing about ourselves that many have ignored.

When we do not listen to us we get in the way of our own progress.

We cannot always know why to move, change or act in ways that we feel are correct before we do, and that is where trust comes in.

Often we realize the mistake of not listening later. Remember this and listen and follow you the next time.

This is not a mystical intuition it is an innate knowing that guides us each day.

This is the one human skill that saves us from going off course of our best direction.

This is the connection that is waking up and becoming more dominant and is best to listen, learn and act on.

Change is good. Moving forward from an inner, wisdom place is important, comfortable and positive in every aspect of life.

No rushing, allow you to find your comfort in new arenas in your mind and your life.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

StraightArrow has been a guide, teacher and healer for over two decades helping people balance body, mind, emotions, spirit and soul in practical, loving and fun ways in all areas of their lives successfully. Call Janet today for support and ease in all of your changes.

www.bethemedicine.com 973-647-2500 Janet@bethemedicine.com

For Lisa 3/19/1979 - 4/1/2008 Easter Sunday 2013...

Sun, 31 Mar 2013 11:06:46 EDT

Tomorrow it will be five years that you bade the earth and us ado. You had a calling to move into another life, and it was for us to deal with that.

You were born in ease and left in ease, quickly and quietly. In between, you lived spiritual lessons of one who was usually much older, not always easy. Those last years before you died, I watched you move into a high level of love and acceptance and appreciation as the lessons continued.

Although you came to me the moment you left your body, and held me with the most precious love afterwards, it was such a shock. My human self lost a daughter and my body, mind and emotions had to heal and live balancing the wisdom of my spirit-soul self.

You and I both knew you had signed up for an early exit, but nothing prepared me for this, and everything prepared me for this.

April Fools. One moment we were on the phone planning dinner for the next night, and not too many moments later, your sister called saying you had collapsed.

Life is so precious and you taught me that for 29 years, and every moment after.

For five years my life has been shattered in so many ways and I have noted the grieving and healing process to help others.

Having purpose made life easier, when nothing was easy at all.

You taught me so much and I honor you as teacher. You taught me to slow down and pay attention, to dream and be an artist in many ways, in our human years together.

Our journey on earth and since has been quite extraordinary.

I am grateful for all of the gifts, the special times we enjoyed together.

The days we spent hiking and exploring nature and special towns, trips and spots, and more hours just being in silence together were precious indeed.

The times we have communed since have been rewarding too. I have been grateful to be connected in a way to experience you and others who have passed on. I have learned so much more with our direct experience what it is like after physical death.

A year ago, you told me that you knew that Dad, Sister and I had healed enough, and moved into a better place, which allowed you to go to new places on your journey. We did not need you so close anymore. I felt the truth of it. Sadness opened to acceptance and appreciation. Yes, we will always miss you, but we can now go on too.

This past year has been great healing. 2012 was surely prime time to ascend in this body and leave the world behind. I do know that love is the answer, the place to live every moment, and nothing can hurt us when we live love.

This year I am not so raw. Some tears, but I know you are truly in a better place and that I am too, and so is your family.

My broken heart opened to more love, peace and freedom, as all of the pieces of me awakened out of illusion into the truth and beauty of life and love. Life goes on, love goes on and we never die. There is noting to fear and everything to enjoy.

I send you love everyday, my daughter, my teacher, my friend and thank you for sharing your life with me. I realize how much each person means and changes our life, and makes it more.

You deepened my soul journey in life and death, and I appreciate that.

So today, Easter Sunday, I honor you and your resurrection into new life, and pray that more people can experience this in their lives too.

There is no need to die. You helped me with this, as I continue to choose eternal life and love in this body everyday.

Blessings Dear Lisa Michelle My Belle, you grace us all with great love.

Love always, Mom xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Dear Readers, Lisa died of a pulmonary embolism, a blood clot hidden in her leg, that found its way to her lung and heart. There are tests to see if you have a possibility of this problem, and you can make changes to be aware and possibly prevent them. Check with your health care provider for this information if you feel called to.

TRUST IS AN INSIDE JOB...

Wed, 13 Mar 2013 06:01:02 EDT

To own our own experience, judgments and expectations, helps us come to terms with trust.

Trust is often confused, as it can be laced with desire for things, of others, or even one self, to be different than we are.

When you make peace with what is, you can trust it to be so.

You can trust others to act as they have always acted, and not how you want them to.

Trust begins with seeing a true picture, even when it is not what you wish were so.

We can trust that an alcoholic is going to drink, a cheater is going to cheat, and a lover is going to love.

Trust is about you making peace with the difference between your desires, and what is.

Begin with trusting you to see truth in all ways. Truth is discernment or clear seeing, without judgment.

When you know truth, you can easily navigate with wisdom and strength.

When you see and live truth you can trust, both you and others in all ways.

If we keep expecting someone to be different, when they have shown us otherwise, it is us we cannot trust.

Open your eyes and heart to truth, and trust what you know, and allow you and others to be free to be.

If you do not like things the way they are, the one you can change is you!

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Coaching, healing, teaching, retreats and many opportunities to support you to live a life of health, happiness, freedom and fun.

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UNDERSTANDING EGO - FREEING YOU TO BE YOU!...

Sun, 06 Jan 2013 03:16:16 EST

Ego gets a bad rap for good reasons, and also because of ignorance and misunderstanding. Ego is a basic fabric of our being that keeps us going and strengthens us. To have a healthy, balanced, secure and knowing ego is perfect.

The ego that gives us a problem is the unbalanced, insecure, fearful, controlling ego that has been wounded and tries to protect itself over and over again.

A healthy ego loves and takes responsibility for self. This ego is wise and mature and able to see truth and live it and self-correct when off base, which happens with everyone. No one is perfect we all have challenges to us daily. This ego takes care of self and does not wound others.

An unhealthy ego is always trying to be right and blame others or have others be responsible for them. A bully will blame and try to get you to feel less than them when that is how they feel and you are their mirror and punching bag. A poor me will also blame. and want others to take responsibility and be strong for them.

The bully projects their weakness on others, and puts a lot of energy into hiding from themselves instead of loving themselves and self-correcting.

A poor me is always playing less than and trying to get others to do and be for them because they believe they are not strong enough. Neither way works and is very draining on everyone.

When you live in balance, you can be true to you, and what is occurring in your life, and learn from it. No one is to blame and you have a clear path to move easily in.

When someone says that someone has a big or small ego what they are saying is that this person is taking their wounds out on others acting irresponsible and hurtful. Both are an energy drain and not very fun to be with when they turn on you, subtly or directly.

A big or small ego uses you for a punching bag or a food source to fuel their wounded self, which is never any fun at all. Neither one is safe to be with when you do not see the imbalance and think it is nothing, get mad them or want to fix them.

Loving each other through life is important, and seeing where we all are only occurs if you heal your own ego wounds, and know how to take care of you.

The way to see if your ego is out of balance is to listen to you and see where you might be blaming others insyead of looking at you.

Spiritual mastery is all about healing the wounded ego and living the highest truth with no fear, doubt or blame. Having compassion for self and other is paramount in living love and understanding.

Physical, mental and emotional healing is all related to healing and realigning the ego with the highest truth and love.

Once you learn and heal it takes so much less energy to be you and be with others leaving you free to enjoy more of life and love and vibrant health too!

Happiness is being real and not ideal, because real is what we all deal with each day when we are in balance.

A bully or victim, are not to blame or fear, but instead can show you where you are out of balance to heal yourself. You help them by not playing into their game, or blaming them either, as they are the last ones to see what they are doing because their attention is not on their true self at all.

Love you enough to be wise, and know that only you can change you to be happy and healthy. Do not blame another for your problems, you are the solution when you can get free of wounded ego patterns and see the light and truth, and be free to be you.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

www.bethemedicine.com 973-647-2500 Janet@bethemedicine.com

Spiritual healing coaching helps you to get straight with you. Healing the ego and coming to truth is a process. Being loving and powerful is normal and allows you to move forward in every area of your life easily.

Call Janet StraightArrow today to discover a new simpler way to you.

ARE YOU READY FOR AN EVOLUTIONARY LEAP?...

Tue, 27 Nov 2012 07:08:23 EST

2012 is coming to a close. It is said that time, and the experience of things moving so fast, will slow down for us to live mindfully and work with all of the changes of the past decades as we move forward from here.

Slowing down is key. Allowing assimilation and higher purpose to carry us through this time is helpful for all. Love is still and always the answer. Wherever you focus you create that reality in your life.

Challenges will come in the transition and it is important to remember how we can redirect everything easily. Letting go of fear and hurtful thoughts and perceptions allows a better now and future to unfold. Letting go of right and wrong and proving oneself allows us to be who we are.

No one has to agree with us or fit into our own unique understanding about life, and our life. We are co-creators and explorers of the highest order and it is good to remember that, and choose from our wisdom and not what others think.

Focus on being positive, present and productive and do not get sidetracked into other realities. If you do, notice, learn and move on.

Peace and contentment find us in all situations and allow flow. Fear tries to trap us and keep us from our best self, and hearts desire at many turns. Let go of fear and rise above it to flow again.

This has been a time of more light, love and positive spiritual awareness and support more than ever. The dark has its say and we can choose to follow it, or find our own guiding light.

Winter Solstice December 21, 2012 is the fulcrum of the change and we are here now participating at this sacred time. Stay open to finding your highest course for the now and enjoy the journey.

Stay focused on love and the good and you will be carried through challenges easily. Like many other shift points in our world, the greatest awareness is after we passed through it and realized how much we changed and grew and became.

This is our time. Celebrate, do ceremony, share love, wisdom and grace in community and everywhere in your life.

Step into your highest, best self and shine and see where the light takes you.

Blessings to all,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

janet@bethemedicine.com 973-647-2500 www.bethemedicine.com

RELIEVING STRESS AFTER HURRICANE SANDY OR ANY TRAUMATIC EVENT...

Sat, 03 Nov 2012 07:35:43 EDT

It’s important to be aware and listen to your still small voice that tells you what you need to stay safe and cared for.

Honor your feelings and perceptions and stay balanced, do not allow fear to make things worse on you and others.

Do you best to take care of family and anyone else in your care or influence. When we help others we are more positive and loving.

Stop watching the photo coverage and listening to the news beyond what is necessary to know basics.

The over dramatization is creating more fear in your body-mind - reality is tough enough.

Pay attention to any trauma you are feeling and take care of you.

Begin with drinking water to stay hydrated which will keep all of you flowing more easily.

Do some gentle and conscious breathing, go outside and appreciate nature, exercise and eat balanced healthy food as you can.

Stress is fear; plain and simple, so do your best to let go of fear with each breath and breathe in peace and love.

A helpful experience would be for you to sit or lie down and relax. Allow yourself to take a break from all of the worry, and what is not happening, and what is challenged now, and allow a new flow of positive energy to come in.

Nature and the Universe nurtures and supports us. It is important to allow that support in.

Whenever you are emotional or tense, fear is ruling. Breathe, move, relax and call in positive, present and productive thoughts and actions.

These will release the fear boundaries on your body-mind, and allow new messages to come in that will guide and support you through this time.

All of us are affected no matter where we are or what is occurring in our life, we are all one. Send love and peace to everyone including you and this will raise the vibration and smooth outcome for all of us.

Progress into breathing love in and out with each breath and watch your focus and energy body change.

When we are balanced we make good choices and become strong and real so that we can make it through any storm in life.

Blessings to all of us in these extreme and changing times.

Be Wise.

Enjoy your Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Discount phone sessions are available to help you through the storms of life everyday this week through Friday 11/9.

Blessings and Love to All.

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LIVING IN THE NOW � BE FREE TO BE...

Tue, 23 Oct 2012 18:03:47 EDT

Things change every second. I have often wondered how people can plan years in advance. I may plan for the month or even a couple of months ahead and still things change daily.

I have gotten used to living moment-by-moment. This is not easy for many to accomplish because they are attached to knowing what will occur ahead of time. Living in spirit I am open to all time, all futures.

Every moment sets up the next moment. When I teach or facilitate healing-coaching or teaching sessions, I do not even attempt to think I know what will occur. To preplan things down to the moment is false to me.

When two or more people come together, there are many factors that may change the direction of the meeting. Being with what is in the moment always offers the best for everyone.

It is a challenge when people have expectations as to what should occur in their life and with others. We can certainly have plans and still be open to the best that comes from these intentions.

In some classes I have a blueprint of what I am teaching and yet how it all comes together and in what words or form, is led by what is called for in the moment for the people who attend.

I know that this is a developed art of being. Beginning with trust, awareness, intention, presence and connection.

This has been a practice developed on purpose, and in alignment with my soul and self, over decades. Living in the moment is very freeing when and can also be fun because life is an adventure. Even the challenges bring new opportunities to be free.

Test out your stuck places and see where you can give up problems, pain, fear and expectations. That is what the trap of stuck is – fixed ideas that keep you out of the flow of the current movement or reality.

Be Free to Be.

Begin by being open to this intent and see where it takes you.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

StraightArrow is a powerful professional healer-teacher and coach to help you, help yourself be free to be, heal, live on purpose and enjoy your own direct, fun, loving journey to you. Your life has more joy and you build comfort and confidence in all areas of your health and life. Call today for a free interview.